Tegid

Yesterday was such a hard day. It was my Uncle Tegid funeral. He was 78 years old but had struggled with Parkinson's disease for about 15 years. Tegid had been a teacher, then changed careers and became a Vicar. It was no surprise therefore that the service in the Church lasted a painful 1hr and 15 mins. The service was held totally through the medium of Welsh, as it should be, but I did feel sorry for my English cousins who had to "winging it" for all that time. To be honest I made the decision not to take my reading glasses, so I was partly winging it too! As I'm an agnostic I found most of the service painful and unnecessary, but the eulogy was lovely, on saying that the Church was Tegid's life, so I didn't begrudge spending that time in his honour. The Church was packed and speakers had been set up outside for the many people who didn't have a seat. He was without doubt a popular man.

Following the church service, there was a family only service at the crematorium. A photo video was played to the music of Abba, that had us all in tears ... my father, my grandparents and my mother's siblings all bought back to life on a big screen, yeah that was beautiful but hard. When we came out, I was surrounded by family, some, like Tegid's grandchildren, I didn't even know, but even with lot of people that I'm close to, I felt so emotionally alone. Through no fault of his own, the person I need most in the world at that time, my husband, my everything, was not there. Wow, a roller coaster of emotions and unbelievable feeling of loneliness even though I was surrounded by people.

We then all went back to the Royal Victoria in Llanberis and it was so lovely to catch up with family members from all over the UK who had travelled up to remember our "Uncle Tegid." It was particularly special for me to see 2 of the 4 Ipswich brothers again, Uncle Merfyn's sons, though I love them all, Ian and David have always been special to me. I tell them both they are my favourite cousin ... but hell I couldn't choose if I had too! LOL It would be great to see them all again soon, but hopefully in sweeter circumstances! 

Now promise me, if I kick the bucket soon, take me to the Crem, burn me, do the photo video thing to George music, have the tea and cake .. but no chapel, no church, no religion!